"Helping, giving and hear the very meaningful life. " Robert Roche, PhD in Psychology, specializing in psychotherapy for couples and prosociality
Robert Roche, PhD in Psychology specialist psychotherapy of the couple and prosocial behavior
Friday, October 1, 2010
What Does Two Fingers Sideways Mean?
SANCHÍS - 28/09/2010 
I have 69 years. I was born in the province of Barcelona and I live in the countryside. Married for 46 years, 7 children, one disabled, and 10 grandchildren. I am a professor of psychology at UAB. I believe in consensus. Politicians should not base their success in crushing the enemy. I am a Christian
Yes and I noted that too much to expect creates communication problems between partners.
thought it was the lack of it.
communication, if not quality, creates disturbances and noise. You may be saying one thing and another with your words with gestures, the look and attitude.
The attitude speaks louder than words.
and unconsciously. In intimate relationships should be a balance pas-pro.
What is that?
A balance between passionate love and love prosocial, that is one that is primarily interested in the other, which gives all the space to another, which decentralized the self, not in your interests, but seeks to listen to fund other . From there will come an enrichment for me and also for you.
have to be mature and generous for that.
Without such love, the couple drowns in self-centered feelings. Anyone who invests in the other builds and maintains the couple.
But the passion is the spark.
passionate love is love free, great!, a gift beyond price.
suddenly you come, yes.
prosocial Love has a cost, requires effort, is altruistic, seeking more functionality and support the other, but gives both people the couple of great significance for authenticity. Prosocial communication is completely accepts the other.
What is learned?
Yo, I make my students practice help, listen, comfort, empathize, appreciate the other, be supportive. And they have to practice with an opponent or someone unfriendly. Posed action and check what happens to carry it out.
What?
The benefits of prosocial behaviors prevent violence, improve and interpersonal group climate, the vitality of the giver, the mental health of the author and receiver of the action.
Okay, love prosocial. And when the passion disappears?
prosocial Love is a great nurturer of passion, because if your partner takes time, effort and enthusiasm, your passion is reborn.
So Why go all the couples at loggerheads?
You have to accept that there are disagreements and learn to handle them, discuss them with communicative quality, focus attention on achieving a real relationship.
That is not to agree.
aim But a meeting between me and you, and on the basis of mutual understanding, make the most appropriate options, agree on our values \u200b\u200band establish rules of conduct to follow.
So you have to be smart.
Yes, but we're not talking about IQ, but the multiple intelligences that lead us to achieve a good balance pas-pro.
Understood.
must pursue an equal participation in decision making. Quality communication, explicit expectations, and self-respect and personal growth of each.
you apply prosocial behaviors in countries in conflict, street children, schools.
Yes, with excellent results. Prosocial behaviors stimulates creativity and initiative can develop at any time and apply to every situation and person.
is to do something for someone.
Yes, promote altruism. Teach the behaviors of giving and show the benefits. Empathy is something we have naturally, but we have covered in dust, layers and layers of culture, customs and ways of dealing. Prosocial behaviors must be taught and trained not to forget.
We are taught to seek for ourselves.
of American Psychology assertiveness has come, ie keep my rights without hurting the other, but prosocial perspective goes a step further. Says: I'll start on the other, I became interested in the other. Emptied to accept others.
Does reward?
Thanks to prosocial action, negative emotions better, and health. Putting in place of another trend quiet irascible and resolves resentment and envy. Each of us has the potential to be more aware of what our actions and words occur in others.
That consciousness is power.
Increase aiding, to give, to listen, to empathize with others, courage, and see how you will feel a meaning in life and improve their self esteem.
The answer is not always positive.
Start with the skin of the other enriched my mental capacity, I opened to the world. If I send a message with sincerity, 70% of cases my action and multiplier impact, because if someone has a good and sincere gesture to you, your attitude and the choices you make at the time change. This action causes a chain of actions.
That can not be measured.
know that a punch in a group increases the likelihood that there is another, so do pro-social actions.
"Helping, giving and listening to meaningful life itself"
The power to
Helping, giving, sharing, comforting and deeply empathetic listening, valuing the other, solidarity ... mental and physical benefits to the receiver and the giver. Roche has spent 25 years researching and applying the prosocial behavior, has participated in over fifteen European projects currently in one to decrease school failure. He was the first trainer on prosocial moral education in the new regime of Slovenia and the Czech Republic. His program
Young
prosocial animation should equip emotionally 40 groups of marginalized young people in various countries. He has published more than fifteen books, the last:
Smart Couples Communication and
Prosociality: new challenges.
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