Christophe André, psychiatrist and psychotherapist
"We stick to what should be in place to what is "
SANCHÍS IMA - 11/09/2010
I have 53 years. I was born in Montpellier, living in Paris. Married, I have three daughters. I am a university professor and psychiatrist at the Hospital Sainte-Anne, who specializes in treating emotional disorders, anxiety and depression. I'm Christian and Buddhist center-
I saw a dead pigeon and I become sad ...
has received information from abroad that has caused a state of mind, a mental climate.
Metamorphosis silent.
moods are emotions very subtle, but define our emotional life much more than the excitement, that radical and simplify our perception of events. Emotions drive us to action, and states of mind, reflection.
Sometimes we do not know what to do with what we feel ...
I would rather say we do not know exactly how we feel and then fall into the brooding - turns him incessantly what happens to us, or flight, but every time we refuse to feel our states of mind, the problem persists. What you need to do is listen, have a message for us. The analysis of moods makes us smarter.
have to know it.
First acceptance and then action, reaction or denial ever. Accept our grief gives way to our happiness, and tip (temporarily) in oneself can turn to the future, but the sadness does not mean accepting sink into it. And we must distinguish between brooding and reflection.
tell?
The musings arising from the question why: why I made that decision?, Why it happened to me? The better question to see more clear is how: how to make the problem persist? That's thinking. The why is an intellectual question, how is observation. Knowing what my experience when I feel bad bringing clarity to address the problem.
moods can change multiple times in one day.
It is desirable to give every mood response it deserves, but we tend to give everyone the same answer. The right tool is introspection, to stop and wonder what we are feeling, but difficult, very difficult.
not discourage me, doctor.
A valuable resource is mindfulness meditation, ie be present in the experience of the moment we are living, without a filter, accepting what comes, no value judgments and no expectations.
Why outweigh the negative moods than positive?
Our brain is wired so captivates us more bad than good. When we are calm, facing the sea for example, let us enjoy it, we quickly come to mind a thought like "I ..." or "would have to ...". Instead of being in the present moment, we live in the anticipation or rumination.
There are situations and feelings to which we have no answer.
must accept that there is mystery, but we have answers for everything. The anxious person is the wrong supporting uncertainty. The tendency to worry is based on an intolerance of uncertainty.
"Worrying is ruminate about the future?
Right. Being worried is to have the mind full of problems in advance, busy and nervous. Leave There must be room for other moods, as the small joys of everyday life.
How should the concern?
Understanding that we can not control everything and that problems are part of life, accepting the uncertainty, but we prefer to fill the vacuum of uncertainty troubling acting or anticipating. We stick to what should be rather than what it is.
Teach me to facilitate positive moods.
Smile, we know that smiling increases positive moods. And faced with a problem, take a walk: instead of blocking the mood intellectually, physically move and take away. Move, talk with others and be trained in exercises of gratitude are powerful remedies.
How do you train the gratitude?
Every night, think of three nice moments of the day and realize that almost always those times they should be to others the friend who shared the food ... Osi has been happily listening to music, this time to thank the one composer who lived three centuries ago.
Brilliant idea.
think your happiness linked to other people gives more power and more security that experience gives us strength to fight against this existential loneliness.
Sweetness is another great tool.
True, we tend to think that sweetness, kindness, respect for others is good for those who receive it, but it is still better for the giver and is aware of the consequences of their actions.
Happiness do you learn?
50%, yes. Happiness is being more aware. It's turning the small moments of happiness being in enlightening the conscience. Knowing that happiness is fleeting and intermittent, namely to find within the sadness or misery for a moment to smile and assume the imperfection predisposes us to happiness.
I feel, therefore I am
moods, the subtle blend of emotions and thoughts accompany us at all times, sotto voce drive our actions and our relationship with the world. André is an expert in them, and in his magnificent book moods. Learning serenity (Kairos) the unfolding before us and invites us to listen, accept, become a mentor for our wisdom, especially if they are uncomfortable. I was stuck on page 49, in a simple reflection: "We get irritated when the heater breaks down, but we are delighted to have hot water every morning. And yet, we should do as an exercise of clarity and happiness! ".
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